Party Life

Since I got married nearly 4 years ago, Hugh and I have lived a sort-of quiet, anti-social life.  I struggled with this change especially since I was so used to always being around people and doing something!  But I guess I also thought it was romantic, because we just both loved being together, and so although I wanted to hang out with my friends too, I loved that there wasn't anyone else we needed to see.
Hugh was a homebody and liked "quiet time" - those who know him probably just laughed - really nothing about Hugh is quiet... most of the time he is away from work (including his lunch hour at work) is filled with music (loud music if it's allowed!)  But to sum up how we've spent our time together in evenings and weekends - movies, strolling the mall, dates, the Medium series and now the Star Trek Voyager series!

Hugh was the first to branch out, which totally made me jealous - after ignoring and not hanging out with friends for 3 years there were no friends to hang out with. Luckily I still kept intouch with my former roomies Kim & Serena long distance - but when he had his Jam sessions, Bro's Night and Nerd nights I was always left feeling like a loner with nothing to do (pathetic huh?!)
Hugh encouraged me to hang out with friends and although I insisted that people didn't really like me much and that the friends I did have wouldn't want to hang out with me when their hubbies were home, he kept making suggestions and offering to make sacrifices so I could try to have a social life. (sweet guy huh!!)

Finally, things got moving.  My friend Lesley moved back to Calgary in the summer and she was always the social butterfly - so I third wheeled it and started in on some girls nights - it totally revitalized me! But then she moved... back to solo-Tress...

Basketball on Wed. Nights reached out to me too... but didn't really meet my social needs as I was playing with married men and was the only girl.... UNTIL my friend Jenny agreed to play (maybe only 3 times, but still it was super fun!)

Jenny is incredible - energetic and always doing something it seems! I don't know how she can do with with 4 kids, but it's been so fun getting 'in the loop' and getting to know the other ladies in the ward!
Seriously, I feel so lucky - i'm in the best ward ever!  The women I'm surrounded with are such examples to me and hanging out with them energizes me so much!.... is this getting cheezy? sorry - the point is (of this huge long story) - it is SO important to have good friends - no matter what age you are!  i got so used to thinking that it only mattered back before I was married and had to be bombarded with 'peer pressure' all the time, but truly surrounding myself with good people now is such a blessing and I'm sad that I didn't put the effort forward to do that over the last few years.